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Enjoy "IT" Now

July 1, 2008

Too many people go through their day, their month, their year without enjoying life. The fact that you woke up this morning is enough reason to be happy, but I am sure that most people have more reasons than that to be thankful. Well you should enjoy it now. You should enjoy life for what's happening now. Continue to make goals, create plans, save for a rainy day, and learn from your past, but also enjoy what you have now.

Take yourself out for a nice dinner (nice depending on your own definition, not what someone else tell you is nice) or get a massage, or take a walk in the park, or just sit a minute and rest. Whatever your joy, whatever it is that you can do for yourself, you should do it.

I am not saying you have to spend a lot of money, because you would be surprised what research, miles, points, off-peak, and sale could cost. "Big" trips can be cheaper than going from NY to DC. I know there are many times on a nice day at lunch, I might run to the bank and take the long route just to people watch and to take a minute to enjoy the now rather than hope the weather stays nice until I am done working.

I must acknowledge that my wife has taught me to enjoy what I have at the same time that I am saving for the future. We have gone to Paris for the weekend (Fri-Mon). I only took off of work for 2 days. We have gone to Toronto overnight (Sat-Sun). These are trips that people put off until they feel that they built up vacation time or until they feel they are ready, or whatever other excuse they can come up with to not do for self. We have even just met for lunch and talked, just enjoying the moment.

There are a lot of reasons why I am thankful while I am striving for more and looking to improve. But when it’s all said and done I will have taken a minute to enjoy what is going on and happening to me right now. I will not wait; rather I will make time to enjoy "it" now.

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Confidence

July 1, 2008

I will have more confidence in myself, the ones that I love and that love me, and confidence in people I have yet to meet.  I know that it is okay to be the best, but I have to know that I am not the only best.  My confidence will not stop me from understanding that there is a lot of learning to be done and anyone can be my teacher.  When I think about it I know I have learned from my nephews who are 2 years old and 1 years old and learned from my grandmother who was 83 years old.

 Confidence can be tricky, because sometimes people allow it to turn into arrogance.  However when the confidence is used for not only yourself, but also the people who are around, it can become a key to unlocking a world of knowledge.  I mean, why would I have people around me if I can't be confident in their abilities and confident that they will honor and protect our friendship. As I become more confident in others I will be able to ask for advice more, I will be able to break down more, I will be able to learn more, and I will be able to let down my guards and be myself more.

 Confidence is defined as full trust, belief in the powers, trustworthiness, and reliability of a person or thing.  It is with this confidence that I am going to tackle being a better listener, a more thoughtful thinker, a better learner, a better teacher, and just a better human being.  I will use my confidence to help while I am on my new journey for self awareness and self improvement.  My confidence will allow me to step out and not fear the unknown, but rather embrace the path in front of me.  I am confident and I will TRUST.

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I Am Going To Bet.....

July 1, 2008

So the New Year is upon us and it is time to begin anew. Usually this is the place where a person states their New Years resolution being either to get in the gym, read more, eat healthier, etc., etc. Well I am choosing to resolve to bet on myself this year. Not bet in the way that every decision I make will be right or that I know everything or that I have most of the answers. No, rather, bet on the fact that I can do well, that I can do better, that I can learn more, that I can be a better person, and that I can succeed more. I am going to bet that I can be more than just be.
This is going to be a hard resolution to keep because it is so easy to slip into the world of just being. Just getting up in the morning, going to work, maybe going out to meet friends, family and going home to bed; everyone has that time during their life when they are just being. But life and the world is more than that and I am going to taste that exciting world this year. I am going to learn about new things, I am going to try to not only learn about, but also understand something new that I didn't know about last year. I am going to eat healthier, I am going to exercise more, and be a kinder and more patient husband. I am going to take advantage of the world that is right in front of me and bet on myself more. I have a lot of untapped resources and it is time to tap into them.
Every year there are the same one dimensional resolutions and it is time for me to stop thinking one dimensionally. The longer I keep thinking like that, the longer I will stay in a one dimensional space. So this year I am betting on myself; I am letting in all ride on my heart, my mind, my spirit, and myself. I am going to take a ride that I have never taken before and turn this year into the year of exquisite existence. I can't wait, hopefully you too will take life to a new plateau this year. Just between me and you, there is a lot out there waiting for us and I am not letting it pass me by this year. So 2008 is the year I am betting on Jason Devin Wiley.

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We have to always do what we feel is right  It's not good to keep doing something, dating someone or working somewhere because, "what would people say."  I mean honestly, who cares.  So many people go through life trying to please others and will continue dating someone only because their parents like them.  Or they continue working at a job or in an industry because they went to a certain school and it is the "right" thing to do. 
 
Trust me the right thing to do is to follow your heart and admit to yourself that "I have come to realize this doesn't work for me." It's okay to say stop, "I don't like law school", stop, "I am not in love with this person", etc.  The wrong thing to do is to continue down a path in which you know is wrong only because of the perception that will follow if you move on to something else. 
 
Maybe it is hard to say that "I quit".  I can definitely understand the emotions that are evoked from the words quit.  So don't say quit, say, "I have come to realize this doesn't work for me."  Learning what you don't like, also helps you to define what you do like and what you will love.  Don't ever be afraid to take a risk, but understand that if it winds up being something you don't like then be strong enough to walk away and say it's not for you.
 
In the end, walking away could be the best decision.  There is never a need to stay with something because of other's perceptions. It's about fulfilling your dreams and desires. When you find a person you honestly love or a profession you truly love, or etc, it will never seem hard or like work.  It will always seem like the best thing you have done or the best decision you have made. 

Living life is also about finding things/people you don't like, as knowing what you don't like will help you find what you like.  It's okay to say, something is not for you.  Use the lesson to better understand yourself and move toward excellence.  Don't be afraid to say "I have come to realize this doesn't work for me and it is time to move on." 

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Answers

July 1, 2008

Have you ever had a question that was so pressing and kept you up at night, but you were concerned about the answer and wasn't sure if you were ready to handle hearing something you didn't want to hear? I am sure a lot of people can relate. There is a lot of worry and power in an answer. However, I am not willing to give someone else my power. I am not willing to let anyone keep me up all night, worrying while trying to work things out in my head when all I need is the answer to help me move forward.

I know it is hard to ask a question when I have already formulated what kind of answer I am going to receive. The only problem is that there is a lot of negative energy that is used to worry and to be upset. I do not like using negative energy because it only seems to attract a negative spirit. So there really is no good reason as to why I wouldn't ask the question except that I am scared of the answer.

Usually being scared of the answer means that I fear I will be hurt or let down. Being hurt is difficult, but once I am hurt I am quickly given the opportunity to heal and move forward. Without knowing the answer, but allowing it to cause anxiety, I will never be able to move forward. Matter of fact, it will only hold me back and I will stop focusing on improving myself and my surroundings because I will be concerned about the answer someone will give me.

I am not going to allow anyone to hold me back. Matter of fact, from this moment on, even if I am worried about being hurt with an answer, I will ask the question. Knowledge is the key to freedom, growth, and prosperity. The answer might hurt me, but I can move on from that hurt. Questions will be asked, so be prepared to give me answers.

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I know we all have them and we will make them again. A "mistake" is something or someone we wish would not have happened. It has come to define what we Do Not like, Do Not want, and/or Do Not need in our life. But, there is excitement in understanding a "mistake", there is an opportunity to define myself and to learn from the "mistake".

Whatever the" mistake", it is okay for me to have messed up because it allows me to know myself and my wants and my needs. In addition, I am only human. I can not beat myself up because I am not perfect. I have to make sure I do not linger in my "mistake" and make sure I use it as a tool to move forward.

By knowing what I don't like, what I don't need, and what I don't want, I am also getting closer to what I DO like and what I DO need and what I DO want.
Mistakes, accidents, mishaps, stupid relationships, etc. happen all the time. It is when we use that "mistake" to help define our understanding of ourselves and use it to better our insight that we realize how wonderful it is to have a "mistake". Too many people focus on the "mistake" and wishing they could do it over or wishing they could take it back. Well I try everyday not to focus energy on negatives, but rather focus that energy towards positives. So a "mistake" is nothing more than a wonderful opportunity to better understand myself and my surroundings. There is a lot of beauty in a "mistake".

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Let It Go

July 1, 2008

I am striving to learn how to let things go. A breakup is nothing more than an opportunity for something new to come into my life. Also, I need to realize that when someone leaves my life, it doesn't mean that I worst off, it could mean that I am gaining freedom from their hold on me. There are a lot of people, things and events that come into my life that doesn't need to stay forever. A humans brain and heart is only so big, in order for someone new to come into my heart it might mean I have to make room for them by removing someone else.

Losing someone only opens space for something GOOD to come into my life. As I am on a mission to only allow good into my soul/heart/and being. Also, usually if I am living a life of prosperity and accomplishment I have to learn to let go of those that aren't trying to live the same as me. I could have a lot of history with someone, but history doesn't mean future. History only allows me to learn and move forward. It will dictate my future only in that I will be more educated, but it will not dictate the need to stay with someone.

People come into our lives for a reason and when they are gone, I have to let them go. Either way their spirit/advise/knowledge/etc. stays with me, so I don't have to cling on to them, rather just realize what they offered me and what I offered them.

Learning to let a person go is true understanding of being present and living everyday. A lost loved, the passing of someone, being dumped, whatever the lost, there is no need to mourn but rather rejoice in what was shared and embrace the time that was spent with the other person. No one can live in the "what if", "only if", "I wish" and truly live a happy, fulfilling and productive life.

It takes a lot of energy to live in the past and minimal energy to live in the present. I gotta learn to better let it go as he/she has served their purpose for me and I have served my purpose for them. As in the famous words of Whitney Gilbert, I have to "Breathe, Relax, Release".

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Never Had A Bad Day

June 30, 2008

People are always confused when I say, "I've never had a bad day," but it's the truth. I have and will never have a bad day. Don't get me wrong, I have definitely had my bad moments during a day, but I have never had a bad day. Honestly, how could I?

To start off my day, I wake up and to end my day, I go to bed. Nothing about that seems bad. During my day, I eat, have shelter, wear clothes, and live. How can that really be such a bad day? I also try to live my life the best I can. I don't try to live the way someone else lives. I don't try to please others. I try hard to outdo myself everyday, but you will not find me trying to outdo someone else. So how can I have a bad day.

Now there are times I receive upsetting news, or something happens at work that I do not like, or I have an argument or a bunch of other things that could create a list a mile long. However after all of that happens I still manage to go to bed and go to sleep. So it really wasn't a bad day, but rather a bad moment that happens during the day.

Every night I release whatever it was that happened, because at the end of the day, I am not dead, I am still breathing, I am going to sleep and I have a new day tomorrow to begin. Why would I begin my new day still referencing bad moments. I can never have a bad day and never will, just bad moments. I mean really, what is so BAD????

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