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We have to always do what we feel is right  It's not good to keep doing something, dating someone or working somewhere because, "what would people say."  I mean honestly, who cares.  So many people go through life trying to please others and will continue dating someone only because their parents like them.  Or they continue working at a job or in an industry because they went to a certain school and it is the "right" thing to do. 
 
Trust me the right thing to do is to follow your heart and admit to yourself that "I have come to realize this doesn't work for me." It's okay to say stop, "I don't like law school", stop, "I am not in love with this person", etc.  The wrong thing to do is to continue down a path in which you know is wrong only because of the perception that will follow if you move on to something else. 
 
Maybe it is hard to say that "I quit".  I can definitely understand the emotions that are evoked from the words quit.  So don't say quit, say, "I have come to realize this doesn't work for me."  Learning what you don't like, also helps you to define what you do like and what you will love.  Don't ever be afraid to take a risk, but understand that if it winds up being something you don't like then be strong enough to walk away and say it's not for you.
 
In the end, walking away could be the best decision.  There is never a need to stay with something because of other's perceptions. It's about fulfilling your dreams and desires. When you find a person you honestly love or a profession you truly love, or etc, it will never seem hard or like work.  It will always seem like the best thing you have done or the best decision you have made. 

Living life is also about finding things/people you don't like, as knowing what you don't like will help you find what you like.  It's okay to say, something is not for you.  Use the lesson to better understand yourself and move toward excellence.  Don't be afraid to say "I have come to realize this doesn't work for me and it is time to move on." 

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Answers

July 1, 2008

Have you ever had a question that was so pressing and kept you up at night, but you were concerned about the answer and wasn't sure if you were ready to handle hearing something you didn't want to hear? I am sure a lot of people can relate. There is a lot of worry and power in an answer. However, I am not willing to give someone else my power. I am not willing to let anyone keep me up all night, worrying while trying to work things out in my head when all I need is the answer to help me move forward.

I know it is hard to ask a question when I have already formulated what kind of answer I am going to receive. The only problem is that there is a lot of negative energy that is used to worry and to be upset. I do not like using negative energy because it only seems to attract a negative spirit. So there really is no good reason as to why I wouldn't ask the question except that I am scared of the answer.

Usually being scared of the answer means that I fear I will be hurt or let down. Being hurt is difficult, but once I am hurt I am quickly given the opportunity to heal and move forward. Without knowing the answer, but allowing it to cause anxiety, I will never be able to move forward. Matter of fact, it will only hold me back and I will stop focusing on improving myself and my surroundings because I will be concerned about the answer someone will give me.

I am not going to allow anyone to hold me back. Matter of fact, from this moment on, even if I am worried about being hurt with an answer, I will ask the question. Knowledge is the key to freedom, growth, and prosperity. The answer might hurt me, but I can move on from that hurt. Questions will be asked, so be prepared to give me answers.

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I know we all have them and we will make them again. A "mistake" is something or someone we wish would not have happened. It has come to define what we Do Not like, Do Not want, and/or Do Not need in our life. But, there is excitement in understanding a "mistake", there is an opportunity to define myself and to learn from the "mistake".

Whatever the" mistake", it is okay for me to have messed up because it allows me to know myself and my wants and my needs. In addition, I am only human. I can not beat myself up because I am not perfect. I have to make sure I do not linger in my "mistake" and make sure I use it as a tool to move forward.

By knowing what I don't like, what I don't need, and what I don't want, I am also getting closer to what I DO like and what I DO need and what I DO want.
Mistakes, accidents, mishaps, stupid relationships, etc. happen all the time. It is when we use that "mistake" to help define our understanding of ourselves and use it to better our insight that we realize how wonderful it is to have a "mistake". Too many people focus on the "mistake" and wishing they could do it over or wishing they could take it back. Well I try everyday not to focus energy on negatives, but rather focus that energy towards positives. So a "mistake" is nothing more than a wonderful opportunity to better understand myself and my surroundings. There is a lot of beauty in a "mistake".

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Let It Go

July 1, 2008

I am striving to learn how to let things go. A breakup is nothing more than an opportunity for something new to come into my life. Also, I need to realize that when someone leaves my life, it doesn't mean that I worst off, it could mean that I am gaining freedom from their hold on me. There are a lot of people, things and events that come into my life that doesn't need to stay forever. A humans brain and heart is only so big, in order for someone new to come into my heart it might mean I have to make room for them by removing someone else.

Losing someone only opens space for something GOOD to come into my life. As I am on a mission to only allow good into my soul/heart/and being. Also, usually if I am living a life of prosperity and accomplishment I have to learn to let go of those that aren't trying to live the same as me. I could have a lot of history with someone, but history doesn't mean future. History only allows me to learn and move forward. It will dictate my future only in that I will be more educated, but it will not dictate the need to stay with someone.

People come into our lives for a reason and when they are gone, I have to let them go. Either way their spirit/advise/knowledge/etc. stays with me, so I don't have to cling on to them, rather just realize what they offered me and what I offered them.

Learning to let a person go is true understanding of being present and living everyday. A lost loved, the passing of someone, being dumped, whatever the lost, there is no need to mourn but rather rejoice in what was shared and embrace the time that was spent with the other person. No one can live in the "what if", "only if", "I wish" and truly live a happy, fulfilling and productive life.

It takes a lot of energy to live in the past and minimal energy to live in the present. I gotta learn to better let it go as he/she has served their purpose for me and I have served my purpose for them. As in the famous words of Whitney Gilbert, I have to "Breathe, Relax, Release".

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Never Had A Bad Day

June 30, 2008

People are always confused when I say, "I've never had a bad day," but it's the truth. I have and will never have a bad day. Don't get me wrong, I have definitely had my bad moments during a day, but I have never had a bad day. Honestly, how could I?

To start off my day, I wake up and to end my day, I go to bed. Nothing about that seems bad. During my day, I eat, have shelter, wear clothes, and live. How can that really be such a bad day? I also try to live my life the best I can. I don't try to live the way someone else lives. I don't try to please others. I try hard to outdo myself everyday, but you will not find me trying to outdo someone else. So how can I have a bad day.

Now there are times I receive upsetting news, or something happens at work that I do not like, or I have an argument or a bunch of other things that could create a list a mile long. However after all of that happens I still manage to go to bed and go to sleep. So it really wasn't a bad day, but rather a bad moment that happens during the day.

Every night I release whatever it was that happened, because at the end of the day, I am not dead, I am still breathing, I am going to sleep and I have a new day tomorrow to begin. Why would I begin my new day still referencing bad moments. I can never have a bad day and never will, just bad moments. I mean really, what is so BAD????

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It's okay for us to "not know". It's okay for us to be unsure. No one ever said that we have to know everything, all the time, every time. The worst thing is when someone beats themselves up because they are unsure. God didn't make anyone perfect and therefore that means there has to be times when we don't know.
There will be times when you are unsure of what's the next move to make. It is okay!! It doesn't mean there is something wrong with you or you have a problem. It just means you are unsure.

You need to take the time necessary to make the right decision, to gather more information and to have conviction when you finally decide. Don't get me wrong, you will ultimately have to make a decision, but it is okay to not know right away. Sometimes we are presented with choices that seem right either way or we are presented with choices that seem wrong either way.

Take time, walk away from the decision and center yourself. Think about the good and the bad that comes with the decision and focus on what's in your heart that will lead to a happier outcome. Always strive for personal happiness, which will differ for everyone, but strive to fulfill your own happiness when you are in a situation where you are unsure.

People have been uncertain about things from the beginning of time and people will be uncertain until the end of time. It is only for us to know that these times will be presented to us and we will have to deal with them. There is nothing wrong with a person who is unsure, or worried or fearful of a decision. This just reminds us that we are human and that we have to sometimes take a minute a look deep inside before we make a decision. It's not for us to beat ourselves up or get mad because we don't know. We all will be faced with these moments and that is what makes us GREAT. The ability to care about making the right decision and the ability to take the time to make that right decision.

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Inner Wealth

June 30, 2008

I have a huge admiration for people who follow their heart and understand who they are and what they want in life. Usually these are NOT the people who are out there chasing a dollar or following the path created by a system, or dating that wrong person. People who follow their heart are out there creating their own path and making decisions that are best rather than what seems logical.

Following the heart is a wonderful path that will only lead to true happiness. If only people could just listen to what it says as there are many times that the heart will contradict the brain. For example, when you are with that guy who you know isn't right for you, but your brain tells you that if you give him another chance it will work out. It is actually the heart that tries to tell you that he just isn't the right one for you.

People get the heart and brain confused a lot. There are so many conversations about love and how much a person is in love with the wrong person, but these people believe that the heart is what keeps them in the relationship. It is really the brain which uses reasoning and logic and looks to justify wrongs, while the heart actually only wants a pure path for you.

The heart will not lie, the brain will lie to you, but the heart will not lie. Think about those people who are in love with someone from the other side of the tracks, a different race, a different religion, or any other situation that the system would say is wrong. The brain is there to tell us, no this is wrong, you can't do this, but the heart is there to tell you if this is the right person for you. The heart guides you and tell you if you two are in love, care for each other and look to better each other. The heart is always trying to make sure you are truly happy.

The heart not only works for finding a great partner, but also to live life. When you are able to wake up everyday and do something you love you are destined to live a happy life. Too many people are concerned with money, careers, what people think about them, status, and everything else except for being happy and following their heart. When a person follows their heart and looks to be happy, money, status career and everything else will follow.

Our hearts are pure and unclouded by the world. Our brains learn everyday and are taught by the society we are raised. It is always going to be biased by something. Please follow your heart for true fulfillment.

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Good Guy Finish....

June 30, 2008

There is a story that goes a little like this, "one day this guy named Steve Jobs was starting a company called Apple and decided to bring in this new guy named, Bill Gates. Well the story continues that Steve allowed Bill to see all aspects of his company and showed him the ropes of the programming/computer industry. Unfortunately, Bill didn't see it the same way as Steve and took the information and left the Apple company to create his own company called Microsoft." I don't know how true the story is, but it is supposedly how Apple and Microsoft both started. Either way, Steve Jobs was being a good guy and tried to bring along a new guy into his start up company. Some would wonder aloud, "see it never pays to be a good guy" and I would counter with, if it wasn't for Bill Gates, Steve Jobs would not be the man he is today. He would not need to find other ways to invest his research and would not be the inventor and creator of the IPod, ITunes, IPhone and the entire I series of inventions.

This goes for life in general. The good guy doesn't FINISH last. Just ask a few key good guys out there... Desmond Tutu, Deepak Chopra, Oprah, and others. You better believe there is money to be made in being good. There are a lot of people who would argue with you that they know a few good guys who have finished ahead in the world and live a good and peaceful life. The greatest aspect of being a good guy is the piece of mind that comes with the way you live. Not only are you able to finish ahead of the pact, but you are also able to live life not having to worry about what people are hunting for you because of the way you have treated them. I am a fan of the good guys and girls out there. They are the people that make this a better planet and world.

Think about the teachers you have had in your life. It's because they are "good" people that make them teachers, because it is definitely not a profession that pays you for all of your hard work and dedication. I applaud all of the good men and women who walk this earth and know that they are still able to do well, while living well. I strive everyday to be one of them.

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