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Definition of A Man

June 27, 2008

To define a man is probably more difficult than finding a Perfect Woman. By no means is a MAN defined by how much money he has, how many people he has beat up, how many degrees he possess, how many women he has had sex with, how many times he's been to jail or any of the crazy notions you hear. However, a man can be defined in the most basic of terms as a male who is a provider, understands responsibility, is driven towards excellence, and is willing to make right any wrongs.

Beginning with the word provider, I don't want there to be any mistakes in thinking that this means a man must make more than a woman and provide all that she needs. A real MAN does not need to make more than a woman, matter of fact he could even stay at home and take care of the kids and make no money in a relationship. A provider could be seen as the following, a provider of security, a provider of comfort, a provider of respect, a provider of love, a provider of maturity, and many other ways of providing. It does not only mean PROVIDING MONEY. A good woman can make her own money. Don't get me wrong, it can mean a provider of financial security, but don't ever confine yourself to that limited definition.

Secondly, a MAN understands responsibility in its many forms. This begins with understanding his needs, wants and desires and while understanding his self, he becomes aware of how he must achieve these things. Not every MAN is going to have an ivy league degree or even a degree. Not every MAN is going to have a job making six figures but a MAN will understand responsibility and how to take care of his responsibilities. He understands that sometimes life will throw you a new burden that wasn't planned for, but it doesn't falter him from standing up and taking on the responsibility of that new burden.

It is important for everyone to understand that NO ONE is perfect and if anyone tells you that they are, then it is necessary for you to move away from them as quickly as possible. A MAN is always working and driving towards excellence. He is always looking to better himself, better his situation, and better his understanding of the world around him. He's not perfect now and he understands that he has work to do on himself, which he is always striving to accomplish. Don't think this means that one day he will be perfect. It only means that a MAN is always striving for excellence.

Lastly, when we come to understand that no one is perfect we also understand that mistakes will happen. It's only human. With these mistakes comes the opportunity for a MAN to really show himself. Once a mistake happens he is the first to admit it and try his hardest to right the wrong. A MAN is always looking to correct any mistake that he has done. It does not mean he will make everything right as soon as the mistake happens, but rather admit his wrongs and try to prevent it from ever happening again and correct it as much as possible.

A MAN is a continuous work in progress and once a male has all four of these characteristics, they can build and add other features to themselves to show their true personalities. But a male must be someone who is a provider, understands responsibility, is driven towards excellence, and is willing to make right any wrongs in order to be a MAN

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